![]() “ go through phases of desperately seeking the approval of men because I never felt approved by him or important enough to keep a relationship with him.” - Emily T. God help the person who tries to open it.” - Angela L. To this day, I’ll keep feeling abandonment or being ignored tucked away into a nice little drawer. Feeling rejected by their dad, they fear abandonment and struggle with trust, commitment, and. ![]() “I build walls and compartmentalize my feelings. Kids who grow up without a father often struggle socially. Then took his own life when I was 12! I was daddy’s little girl. Didn’t have much time with him growing up. He had schizophrenia so he couldn’t be much of a parent. “I have major fear of abandonment issues. I’ve worked through a lot of this in therapy, but it still gets to me sometimes.” - Jennifer P. “I also have trouble maintaining friendships because I’m so scared of being abandoned or even just berated the second they get upset with me. Also, that you shouldn’t ask for help because the request will just be ignored.” - Megan M. ![]() It has taught me that I need to do everything for myself and if anyone is trying to help that it will come at a price. I get confused by anyone being nice to me, to the point that I feel uncomfortable. “I need constant reassurance that my partner actually loves me. I am overly available for my friends but I will never be the same for myself.” - Marii K. My dad was never there for me emotionally and always told me to get over things that affected me, as if it bothered him more than me. The unknown things like the why, the how, the what of growing up without him there. It was 'the unknown' that scared me so much. His choice to leave before I was born felt like a curse. When I say constant, I mean that I think so low of myself and that I am always doubting that people care about me. Growing up without my father was, by far, the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life. When people get upset with me, I automatically assume it’s my fault. It makes me anxious and I blame myself even if I’m not guilty of anything. “I need constant reassurance that people love me and care. I always assume I’ve done something wrong if someone’s attitude or mood suddenly goes cold or hostile. We spoke to The Mighty’s mental health community to learn some of the “habits” they’ve picked up after growing up with emotionally absent fathers. its not just kids growing up without a parent that left, its also children growing up with parents that are kept away. Im not down for encouraging single mothers to continue to have to raise their children alone. If you find that you’re doing one or more of these things, you’re not alone. Good role models matter and I believe fathers in their sons lives is EXTREMELY important. ![]()
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